My friend Bentley has the incredible ability to create visions. She mostly dreams up the future of others and taps into their potential before they even realize what they are capable of. Bentley told me years ago that I should write about finding your own personal style.
So I’ve decided to begin 2017 with a new series on With Love, Camille called Step Into Your Style (thank you, Bentley, for the name). I want to focus on guiding women to find their own unique style through their personalities. I truly believe in the art of expressing oneself through fashion and the freedom and confidence it can bring you.
First things first, when searching for your own personal style you have to have confidence. Most of that stems from knowing who you are. A lot of women can look amazing on the outside, but it’s no good if you feel crappy on the inside. Confidence exudes out from a woman and can radiate throughout the room while an unhappy and insecure woman can fester.
Confidence can be fleeting. It’s like the ocean and insecurities can surface and subside at any moment. Here are a few ways to gain confidence and keep it up when the times seem rough.
FACE YOUR INSECURITIES
I’m not going to bore you with the telling you that you should love yourself. I think we all know that by now, but actually doing it is another thing. It can take a long time to love whatever it is you’re insecure about, but it can be accomplished. Do things that will force you to face your insecurities in the eye. I am really insecure of my eczema and some days it really is unbearable. Sometimes I purposefully don’t try to cover it up with turtlenecks or makeup. I’ll let it show and try to walk around with confidence.
- Take a dance class if you’re self conscious of your body
- Do improv if you’re self conscious in front of crowds
- If you don’t like your legs show some leg and wear something that flatters them.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Confidence is like a muscle. You have to work at it every day and some days will be harder than others. When I was in journalism school I wanted to be in front of the camera, but I was also scared of it at the same time. It made me vulnerable and I felt like the camera could see right through me. So I decided to take an acting and speech class. Both classes forced me out of my comfort zone. I was in front of the camera every week and I had to tap into my vulnerability to make a good speech. After the semester was over I wasn’t scared anymore and I gained the confidence to continue speaking in front of the camera.
Here a few tips on practicing confidence
- Write in a journal everyday 10 things you love about yourself
- Be bold. Wear a red lip or a daring piece of clothing. Celebrate you!
- Look in the mirror and tell yourself one thing you love about yourself until you begin believing it.
- Walk taller with your head high. Posture can greatly affect your mood.
- Always look your best and you will begin to feel your best.
Most of all know that you are unique and there is no one like you! You only have one life and one body in this world. Might as well start loving it and making it work for you! I can tell you right now that you are beautiful and it is about time to start showing that personality of yours. In the upcoming articles I will show you exactly how you can express yourself through your own personal style and why it’s important.