Losing your confidence is difficult. You feel powerless when that happens and sometimes it may seem like you’ll never get yourself out of that rut. But the thing to remember about having doubts, fears and low self-esteem is that it is in fact just a rut. You can always pull yourself out of it because the mind is a powerful instrument and it’s the only thing that can get you out of situations like these.
I have extreme atopic dermatitis, most commonly known as eczema. I have bad days and I have good days, but one thing I know for sure is the good days will come again and I have the power to decide if it’s going to be a good or bad day.
There are days when I wake up full of hives and there was a time I had to bathe in a Clorox water mixture advised by my dermatologist. Having a condition that affects your outward appearance and your inner self worth is difficult. It not only looked bad, but it hurt, burned and itched!
I just wanted to remind you, dear reader, that it’s okay to have bad days but to remember it is just a bad day and tomorrow can be a better day if you choose it to be. Your mind has the power to turn your whole day, your outlook on yourself and life around if you practice these 3 things.
The key to shifting your outlook on anything is perspective. Know that there is not only one way to look at things. If you’re willing you can always find a positive outlook on whatever situation you may be going through. For example, if I make a mistake at work I know it is not the end of the world. I could beat myself up for it and be embarrassed, but deep down I know it does me no good.
“There is no such thing as failure if you learn from your mistakes.”
Sometimes when I’m feeling low about myself or about some aspect of my life, I have to take a few minutes out of my day to spend time with myself and reflect. I either write my thoughts down in a journal or create at least three lists: What I love about myself, what I am grateful for and what I want to accomplish in life. A friend told me she does this every day and I find it helps me particularly when I feel like I’m struggling to get my feet on the ground.
The first list helps me to see what I have going on, the positive aspects of myself that I don’t give credit for. The second helps remind me that I am blessed and to give thanks and put it out in the universe. The third keeps me on track with my goals and motivated that I will achieve them one day.
TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
It is especially important in times of uncertainty, anxiety and negativity to take care of yourself. Most people tend to eat their feelings, drink their feelings away or partake in other activities that are not beneficial to them. What good will this do? In the long run you end up hurting yourself and it will make you feel worse about yourself.
I’m a believer that moderation is key…in EVERYTHING. I highly encourage practicing this which means you get to treat yourself to things that make you happy but you also need to balance it out with things that keep you physically, mentally and emotionally healthy.
Exercise helps me to let my negative feelings out in a therapeutic way and it is also an excellent way to shed calories! I also like to indulge in a bit of chocolate too. Chocolate always makes everything better!
My point is..YOU are a beautiful, compassionate human being and the only person who can make you happy is you. Think of life like playing chess, both require a lot of thinking and strategizing in order to “win” the game or, in this case, gain confidence and live the life a happier more confident life…so keep practicing!