It seems to me that the majority of people in this world are running after the clock, immersed in what tasks are ahead of them, not paying attention to their bodies, and constantly punishing themselves for not being perfect – or maybe it’s always been like this.
I realize I spend a lot of time feeling guilty for being sleepy, falling asleep early or sleeping in. Just this morning I was upset with myself because I didn’t go to that boxing class I said I would go to at 6am and for not finishing the work I had to do the night before. I fell asleep at 10:30pm.
I constantly have to remind myself that it is normal to be tired or sleepy after a full day’s work. It’s my body telling me I need to rest for a few minutes and that this doesn’t make me a bad person.
Why do we feel guilty? Is it because there is a lot on our plate? Is it because we believe our world will fall apart if we don’t finish those tasks? Do we actually believe that we can do everything we “have to do” in one day?
NO. No, we shouldn’t feel guilty. No, our world will not fall apart if we don’t finish those tasks. No, we are not super humans that can finish everything in one day!
We are human and we are not perfect and THAT’S OKAY! Even the Beyonces and Shonda Rhimes of the world can’t finish everything in one day.
Because I believe that this is a mindset that everyone needs to get out of I’ve compiled a short list to help you balance your daily tasks and to help you start your path towards being perfectly okay with being imperfect!
Step 1: Acceptance
Realize and accept that you are human and you are not perfect. No one is! If everyone was “perfect” then no one would be unique. You need to start letting go of the concept of perfect because there is no such thing. All you can do is strive to do your best every day and that is more than enough.
Step 2: Make a list
Once you’ve accepted that you are human you can make a list of everything you think you have to do for the next day. Evaluate the tasks you have on that list and pick 3 of the most important tasks. These 3 tasks are now your top priority and should be finished by the end of the day. You cannot move on to any tasks if you have not finished them.
Step 3: Focus on one thing at a time
There are a lot of distractions out there in the world, but you must learn to focus on one task at a time. If you break down your day into one task at a time you will more likely than not be less stressed. Most people tend to worry or stress out about how much they have to do. You deal with this by telling yourself that you must do this one task at this moment and you can’t move on until it’s done. You will find that you will gradually chip away at that overwhelming long list and your stress will have slowly subsided.
Step 4: Breathe and simplify
f you are still feeling overwhelmed take a deep breath. Take a walk outside if you have to! Once you’ve done that look at your list again and see if there are tasks that can be broken down to smaller tasks. If you can do those smaller tasks one at a time until you finish the overall task.
Step 5: Be kind to yourself
At the end of the day you must remember to be kind to yourself. Do something that makes you happy like working out or having dinner with your family. This is the key to a balanced and pretty happy life. It is not the amount of things you accomplish in one day, but the effort to do the most important things and doing at least one thing a day that makes you happy. Not even the greatest leaders can accomplish everything in one day.
So whether you are a student who also has a part-time job, or a working mom, or just a person trying to get through the hustle and bustle of this thing called life, remember to take a moment and breathe in these steps. I guarantee your days will be more manageable and your life will be happier overall! Even Orange is the New Black and Scandal writer, Shonda Rhimes, admits in a Ted Talk that “work doesn’t work without play.”
So stay focused, stay positive, and go play! The outcomes will be better than you could ever imagine!
Below you’ll find a few of my favorite things that help keep me focused, organized and happy!