It’s been disheartening to hear what has happened in Brussels recently. It’s even more disheartening to hear it happen more and more within the past few years. Paris…San Bernardino…what’s next? With these difficult times, I urge people to put others in perspective.
It can be easy to go about daily life and get sucked in by it. There is always a lot of work to do, errands to run and events to attend. I know I was easily sucked into the fast LA lifestyle. I never slept because I always thought that was time wasted when I could be productive. I worked myself to the ground and always had other things on my mind, but it wasn’t a fulfilling lifestyle. I gained weight from not sleeping, I was always stressed and I kept missing out on time with my friends and family because I was preoccupied with other things AND FOR WHAT? I realized that time is fleeting and so are the people in it. We all need to take care of ourselves and the people we love because life without the people we love isn’t really a life well lived. So I decided to step back and make some changes.
THINK ABOUT WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU
What are your values in life? What matters to YOU? Do you value money, objects, status? Or do you value family, quality time and health? Once you determine these values you can begin to make decisions that center your life around these values. You can choose to go to the club if you think it is valuable to the well being of you or you can choose to spend time with your sister instead. It is your choice.
I don’t care what people say your family should be the most important people in your life. They gave birth to you, they raised you, they were there for you through thick and thin. You owe it to them to be there for them and I don’t just mean physically there. I mean to be fully present emotionally, mentally and physically. If you haven’t said it lately, tell your parents thank you for all they have done for you. Because life is short and you don’t know what will happen in the next few hours or days or months.
QUALITY TIME VS. QUANTITY OF TIME
Sometimes it isn’t about how much time you have, but how you spend the time that you have. There are only so many hours in a day so pick the most important tasks to do that day with the most important people in your life. Spend a day at the beach with your family, have a picnic and enjoy the beautiful day, whatever it is cherish the moments you have.
PEOPLE MATTER, WE’RE ALL HUMAN
Take others into consideration. You’ll be surprised how your actions can indirectly affect people. A smile can go a long way and affect the mood of that person’s day. Be compassionate towards others and do not take anything personally and do not be judgmental. Some people can be rude to you, but that doesn’t mean you’re allowed to be rude back. Reacting in a negative way is a waste of time and will negatively affect you too. It can be hard sometimes to hold back from retaliating, I know I have that problem, but then I remember that those people are human too. They may have been rude to me, but it was probably a reaction to a stressful day and not a personal attack on me. If you remember that it really is not about you, then you can let those silly, unnecessarily stressful situations go. Take time to be mindful and positive when it comes to stressful situations and it could alter your day tremendously.
It is scientifically proven that when people give back to the community they are happier for it. So I challenge you to do one good deed a day no matter how big or small. It can be as simple as opening the door for someone when you walk into Starbucks or telling someone they matter. By doing this, you open yourself to love and acceptance which carries on to the next person. Every time I hold the door for someone to give them yummy food to eat I know I feel a lot more positive throughout the day and so do the people I help.
Remember, this is a world that is full of beautiful and precious things. We can find the joy in every experience if we let it, but by being negative or mean towards others it allows the bad to cancel out the good. People are always going through something and we all have our own problems, but if we work together to send out positivity and love we can help others be more positive and loving.
I know this sounds a little too hippy-ish (if that’s even a word) and these tips won’t solve all the world’s problems, but it could greatly affect your world and the people in it. So call up your mom, dad, sister, best friend, girlfriend or boyfriend or call up your grandma and tell them you love them! Tell them thank you for all they have done for you. Show that beautiful smile and bring beauty and happiness into your life and others.